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I'm A Nerdy Mother

You know, it's important to let your freak flag fly, even if you're a mother.  I went out for lunch with a lovely bunch of ladies, but it reminded me of a few things. 
1.  My social anxiety is still strongly in effect.
2.  Finding mom friends is good, finding mom friends who get you is great.

I really enjoyed my time, but it definitely made me feel like I shrank a little.  When I'm around people I'm comfortable with, I feel just free and comfortable to stretch out within myself and like I'm understood.  If I'm not, I feel exhausted, like I have to check every syllable for something that gives away just how odd I am. 

What I realized is it just feels easier with either women I knew before I was a mother or nerdy moms.  Not to say I hate moms, it's not that at all.  Mothers (and fathers) need each other for survival.  We are the only people who understand the physical, mental and emotional toll raising a child takes.  And while that may be the only thing we have in common, it's a big thing.  Nerdy moms get that while we need each other, sometimes we need each other to just sit quietly at the park together that happens to be a PokeStop while the kids play.  Or as a bookstore buddy.  Or as a coffee compatriot, also a PokeStop, but who's counting.  I love talking about diapers, but also video games. 

Meeting moms has always felt like dating to me (to be honest, I got two phone numbers today of new mom friends).  And, for me, dating got easier once I was around more people who had similar interests.  For me, sharing interests and core values is the only way I can function with truly intimate relationships.  I think it helps me feel more comforted when speaking to someone, like they understand me to the very core of who I am.  So here I am, recuperating after quite the social outing.  Now will it happen again?  Yes.  Soon?  I'm not entirely sure.  I think the solution for us Nerdy Moms (TM) is to find mommy groups that align with our interests.  For example, there's a program called Free Forest School I have enjoyed.  Also, I noticed the Farmer's Market near a local comic book store also seems to have quite a few parents.  Maybe I'll pick up some new Nerdy Mom (TM) friends there.  Mommy friends are great, Nerdy Mommies (TM) are magic.

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